This post is going to be a bit of a ramble, so apologies in advance for that. It won’t be filled with pretty photos and whimsical words, just a few thoughts and feelings and hopefully some words of encouragement for anyone in the same headspace as me.
I have seen a lot of posts, statuses and indirect comments lately about the blogging/vlogging world that have made me feel, quite frankly a bit weird. Its like the whole industry has suddenly just taken a shift into a strange place that I don’t really want to be a part of.
I really think that a big chunk of bloggers and “Tuber’s” have forgotten why they started this journey, or perhaps they actually did start it with intentions somewhat different from my own. I blog and make videos simply because I love it. I love to pour out my heart onto a digital page that I can call my own. I love to be open and honest about my experiences as a mum and homemaker. I love the friends it has brought me, the support I have gained and dished out and the places it has taken me. I also love that I can make some income from it, not enough to buy me that desert island in French Polynesia mind, but some pocket money I can say I earned doing something I enjoy.
I am really lucky that something I started as an absentminded hobby has turned into a second job. Of course, to make it a “job” I work with brands, place adverts in videos and do the occasional sponsored Instagram post. I will only work with products that fit with me and my family and ultimately things I would actually use and genuinely love. Sometimes #AD posts gets negative feedback, I still don’t really understand why but they do. Of course no one wants to see every other blog post or video as an advert, selling them the latest lipstick or push chair but at the end of the day that is just how this thing works now and you either watch the video and appreciate the content or click to exit. I will NEVER ever say that I like something if I don’t. I turn down anything that doesn’t fit with my blog or my life or I know I’m just not going to be able to honestly talk about with any interest. I put as much time and hard effort into my own posts as I do sponsored posts – in fact I don’t view them as very different because they will always be about what I love.
The one thing that bothers me is the competition that seems to have really erupted at full force in this community. I see comments and posts left right and centre of others feeling down because they are constantly comparing themselves to others. Perhaps because someones life looks perfect in their videos, they are getting triple the subscribers every month or working with a new brand every week.
I can honestly put my hand on my heart and say that I never ever compare myself to anyone (other than Blake Lively, because who doesn’t want to be Blake Lively) Of course I look at my fellow creators and think “blimey they’re killing it!” but I never find myself feeling low or defeated because of their success. Why would I? I’m in this industry because of the love, and I think that the love may have been lost for some along the way.
In fact other peoples success just spurs me on to do better. I will absolutely raise them up, because I know how hard they have worked to get where they are. Plus I truly believe that if I stick to the content I enjoy making then I will hopefully be where they are one day, and if i’m not then at least I will have been true to myself and still be in it for the love.
If you are one of those people who’s victorys in writing or filming feel overshadowed by someone else, then take a step back and look at why you do it. Why you film yourselves every day and why you want to be a part of this online community. Are you doing it for the love? It is SO MUCH MORE than a numbers game.