I’m a Working Mum.

There is no “one-size-fits-all” definition of being a mum, there just isn’t.  There is no rule book, guidelines or a walkthrough, you just get through it however is best for you and your family!

I’m a working mum.
I work by choice and nobody’s forcing me into it.  Cue the shocked face and gasps from various mums and maybe dads out there but I actually enjoy going to work and having another purpose in life, outside of being Harry’s mother.
For some people it is more than enough being mum and that is completely and utterly OK! For me, it just isn’t!  Everyone is different.
Don’t get me wrong I love that kid… I love that kid so much i want to eat him up like a squishy marshmallow sometimes but to feel complete I need to keep my brain whirring without the constant buzz of Thomas the Tank Engine in the background.  I need to drink a cup of hot tea without having to re-heat it twice three times.  I need to converse with like minded adults about the latest office gossip or last nights episode of Gogglebox
I obviously don’t just work for my own selfish reasons.. promise!  I now get a payslip at the end of the month, which I missed so so much being on maternity leave.  I am once again able to contribute to the household and I love not feeling guilty when I want to splash out in baby Zara for Harry or take him out for a day of no expense spared fun!
Of course being a working mum comes with some down sides, the mum guilt being the biggest one of all!  The tears every morning when I leave my son can sometimes be unbearable and missing out on things he is doing is hard, I miss him immensely! n There are days when I look out of the window in my office and wish we could be running around at the park together or chilling on the sofa watching his favourite movie Despicable Me (no matter how many times I’ve watched it)
I actually only work 3 days out of the 5 though which is a great balance for us and I honestly think its good for both Harry and myself to have that time apart to both learn and grow as our own beings.
For now it works for us.  It might not be forever, things may change one day but right now i’m pretty happy with our setup
Whether you’re a working mum, a stay-at-home mum OR a working-stay-at-home mum/dad/auntie/uncle/nan/carer.. I salute you, you’re doing a fab job as neither is perfect or easy!
Are you a working or stay at home parent??
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13 Comments

  • Reply thetwodarlings.com 14/04/2015 at 1:08 pm

    I think thats a lovely balance, working three days, I work five full days, away from my two ladies, not even the pay check at the end of the month is enough to convince me I want to be here!

    • Reply admin 27/04/2015 at 11:32 am

      Ahh I can imagine working a full 5 days is really hard! I highly commend you for doing such a fabulous job! Hang in there x

  • Reply Kim Carberry 14/04/2015 at 1:14 pm

    Good for you! It sounds like you are doing what is best or your family and yourself.
    I'm a stay at home parent….

    • Reply admin 27/04/2015 at 11:32 am

      Thanks Kim!! x

  • Reply Katie @mummydaddyme 14/04/2015 at 3:56 pm

    Good for you lovely, it sounds like you are doing what's best for you all. I am doing the same, I work and I get the Mum guilt. But I also know that my own personal situation is that I couldn't be a stay at home mum all day- that's just me. It doesn't mean I love my little girlies any less! 🙂 x

    • Reply admin 27/04/2015 at 12:58 pm

      Thank you! Mum guilt sucks doesn't it.. i'm hoping it gets less and less and the babies get older! x

  • Reply Charlotte Louise Taylor 15/04/2015 at 7:31 am

    This made me smile. I'm happy for you possum. I'm still finding my balance almost three years on. I want to get to the stage where I can work part-time one day. I work full-time and it's really hard sometimes, especially when I coparent with Bill's dad and end up going two days a week without him. I really want to get back to that balance one day. Wish me luck!

    • Reply admin 27/04/2015 at 12:58 pm

      I'm glad i have made you smile 🙂 The balance is never perfect is it!? x

  • Reply Chantal Nowak 15/04/2015 at 8:22 am

    I think 3 days a week is a great balance and that's what I plan to do once my maternity leave comes to an end. Part of me wants to stay home with my baby forever, but even though I've not been a mum for the long sometimes it's nice to remember that I'm me too and not just a mum! x

    • Reply admin 27/04/2015 at 12:58 pm

      I hope that 3 days a week works out for you!! x

  • Reply Moderate Mum 15/04/2015 at 9:13 am

    I consider myself a stay at home mum because that's how I spend the majority of my week but I actually work one day a week and I love it! Feeling part of a work community, using my mind differently and yes a bit of gossip – I hope it makes me a more balanced mum. Going forward I'd like to have a similar arrangement to you but I feel very lucky to be able to dip my toes in.

    • Reply admin 27/04/2015 at 12:59 pm

      Its so nice feeling part of a working community isn't it! x

  • Reply Runya 22/05/2015 at 10:08 am

    I'm a working Mom too. Can feel with you 🙂
    I'm very happy that all my family supports me. I managed that I can work for my Family business from home and still have the time to nursing my baby and be there for her.

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