There is no “one-size-fits-all” definition of being a mum, there just isn’t. There is no rule book, guidelines or a walkthrough, you just get through it however is best for you and your family!
I’m a working mum.
I work by choice and nobody’s forcing me into it. Cue the shocked face and gasps from various mums and maybe dads out there but I actually enjoy going to work and having another purpose in life, outside of being Harry’s mother.
For some people it is more than enough being mum and that is completely and utterly OK! For me, it just isn’t! Everyone is different.
Don’t get me wrong I love that kid… I love that kid so much i want to eat him up like a squishy marshmallow sometimes but to feel complete I need to keep my brain whirring without the constant buzz of Thomas the Tank Engine in the background. I need to drink a cup of hot tea without having to re-heat it
twice three times. I need to converse with like minded adults about the latest office gossip or last nights episode of Gogglebox
I obviously don’t just work for my own selfish reasons.. promise! I now get a payslip at the end of the month, which I missed so so much being on maternity leave. I am once again able to contribute to the household and I love not feeling guilty when I want to splash out in baby Zara for Harry or take him out for a day of no expense spared fun!
Of course being a working mum comes with some down sides, the mum guilt being the biggest one of all! The tears every morning when I leave my son can sometimes be unbearable and missing out on things he is doing is hard, I miss him immensely! n There are days when I look out of the window in my office and wish we could be running around at the park together or chilling on the sofa watching his favourite movie Despicable Me (no matter how many times I’ve watched it)
I actually only work 3 days out of the 5 though which is a great balance for us and I honestly think its good for both Harry and myself to have that time apart to both learn and grow as our own beings.
For now it works for us. It might not be forever, things may change one day but right now i’m pretty happy with our setup
Whether you’re a working mum, a stay-at-home mum OR a working-stay-at-home mum/dad/auntie/uncle/nan/carer.. I salute you, you’re doing a fab job as neither is perfect or easy!
Are you a working or stay at home parent??
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